GRATEFUL LIVING (Gratitude through it all)

During difficult times, you hear the phrase “Everything happens for a reason. Be Strong. Do not give in” or “God has a reason for everything my dear, be grateful in all things”  And do not get me wrong, these are all true and meaningful words of encouragement people need to give one another in times of frustration, depression and what not. And for some people, it is very hard to let the words sink in because when you are in pain or in a destructive condition, those words turn into a language you can not understand. It is very tough to be grateful and positive when you are the one in the situation. You would want to, but your mind wont let you until you understand what it means to be  grateful and how it can change your life and way of thinking.

Everybody goes through challenging and distressing situations everyday of their lives. And if you look on the bright side, it is no death sentence at all because it is not the reduction in problems or challenges that will make you happy. For instance, you may have everything that you could possibly dream of… but it does not end there, because you would want more of it or something else and that makes you discontented, therefore not grateful and unhappy. However, there are others who face misfortunes that we would not wish  for ourselves yet they are grateful, therefore happy. Isn’t that beautiful?

In other words, you become truly happy when you are grateful for every moment in your life; be it good or bad. So it is not the happy people that are grateful but rather the reverse.

I believe that being grateful is about being overly thankful for everything freely given to you by God and how you have manged to make something out of the free thing. It does not matter how big  or small you have achieved but the fact that you are not slacking or being static. For example, we do not earn or trade something to be to be alive. It is free. Life is a valuable gift given to us from above, in it comes lots of moments, opportunities and second chances. And we should be grateful for, and in, every moment, and everyday of our lives because we have second chances and opportunities in life to do something worthwhile. Everything that comes with life and living is a gift in a gift. We can choose how we want our story to end with the opportunities given to us by God.

“When times are stable and the sea is calm and secure, no one is really tested. Similarly, God puts us to a test not to destroy us but to strengthen our faith in him and make our lives meaningful. Many Christians  do not read the Word so they are misinformed, God never said that we will not face temptations, hardship, suffering and the likes. Of course we will, but his  promise to us is that He will be with us through it all. Those who yearn for him really find him.

When you are grateful, you live with a sense of satisfaction and joy not discontentment and fear. Do not be grateful once in a while. Live gratefully everyday!

With love,

Sika Sunshine

 

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THE WAIT IS WORTH IT! (Things to do before and during dating, courting or marriage)

Pray about it – The sooner you start committing your marriage into his holy hands, the less mistakes you end up making. Of course, you will make mistakes (they are part of human growth and development) but the mistakes you encounter when you have God in the center, will not break your relationship but will make it more beautiful and serve as a learning tool. Courtship or marriage is a spiritual before physical bond between two individuals and as such needs spiritual preparation first, that is if you are considering a healthy and long-term relationship.

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Start committing any type of relationship you might have or want to have into God’s hands and He will guide and link you to someone who is not just a soul mate, but a BFF and success coach for life!

Be Patient – Many people rush into relationships without even getting to truly know each other. It does not matter how long you have known each other. People change, pretend and do all sorts of things in order to get what they want. So you need time (a lot of it) whiles getting to know the one.” Unfortunately, this is the step many people ignore which causes them to make terrible mistakes. If you have a good understanding and perspective of what a relationship echoes and what it entails; waiting a couple of years before committing into one is no big deal, its worth it.

A successful relationship is dependent on the mindset of the two individual.

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“Patience is not only about the ability to wait but the ability to have a good attitude while waiting.”

Be Observant and judicious – This is another critical element which if, implemented in the course, or, in the very beginning of a relationship  saves you from making dimwitted mistakes and saves you time as well. Women tend to make this mistake a lot because they are either in a rush to be loved, or perhaps “blinded by love.”

They therefore, do not pay attention or intentionally ignore the red flags (the habits, behavior, etc.) and realize their mistake halfway into the relationship or in some cases at the end of the relationship. This then leads to breakups, divorces, separation and other unpleasant outcomes.

In short, whether you are a man or woman, don’t ignore the “signs.” These signs are revealed to disclose to you that “this man” is no good for you, or “this woman” is no good for you or maybe that you need to carefully assess and ask yourself and your significant other some questions.

Always build your self- worth and know what you want before getting into a relationship. Don’t compromise!, else you will end up hurting yourself.

NB: If you can change your partner for the better, that is awesome!! but if they do not want your help or you can’t change them. Move on!

Pay ATTENTION and don’t let any of those signs pass you by because the consequences are sad.

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~John Mark Green~

There are many vital things to implement and consider in a relationship but these are just a few main ones i think people should look out for. PLEASE leave a comment if you think i left something out and share your thoughts as well.

“Relationships end too soon because people stop putting the same effort to keep you as they did to win you.”

Take your time, good relationships don’t just happen.

 

Importance of Self-Love

In my journey of attaining self-love, i am discovering interesting and great importance of self-love and self-worth (they are somehow interconnected). It is my wish that anyone reading this can relate, to be able to understand and enjoy the benefits of self-love. Here are a few points/tips i would like to share

  • First of all, Self-love gives you courage to move out of your comfort zone. To take risks and to achieve “small wins” in life which turn into Great achievements. Just think about the things that limit you to do certain things e.g. shyness. When you are shy, you are unable to do more, or go extra. You are always in the “below average” or “average” zone which is unhealthy if you want to be successful. In a nutshell, self-love erases intimidation.

 

  • Secondly, When you know your self worth, nobody can bring you down. You only absorb what is useful and discard what is not meaningful to you.

 

  • Self-love makes you the master of “your game.” You are your own boss and no one can intimidate you, because you know who you are and what you want.

 

  • Last but not the least, Self-love is a confirmation to you, your soul, mind and body that you are a master piece of life. Because you are Unique! Learn to appreciate the “whole you,” the imperfections, perfections, weaknesses and strengths that makes you up, and learn how to perfect yourself from the good and ugly side of you.

Self love equals confidence and confidence equals power. Therefore, self-love is power and nobody should take your power away from you because it (self-love) belongs to you. Let this month be your month of self-love and self appreciation of the inner and outer YOU! 

You only live once, so while you have breath be Confident, Dream Big and Achieve your Goals!