MOTIVATION WITH A PURPOSE

 

Motivation without purpose is not enough.

Motivation is great but will not get you where you want to be, it will only cause you to day dream about the things you hope for. Once you have a solid purpose to back up the things you hope for, your motivation becomes meaningful and the actions you take towards achieving your dream(s) begin to pay off for your good.

Have reasons to be motivated. Ask yourself, “what is the reason i must be/do…?” not “I must be/do… because of…,” while the first sentence in bold is deeply immersed with motivation and purpose, the second sentence sounds hypocritical. The first sentence affirms  that there is an important reason as to why something is being done and therefore the reason will serve as an energy or boost to act and do). On the contrary, the second statement is not energy driven because it focuses on pleasing “external forces”- and that is motivation without a solid purpose; not the best way to accomplish a dream.

The reason why we have the “I can achieve and do anything energy/spirit” after watching a motivational video or listening to a motivational message, but in an hour or week later completely forget about our goal driven energy is that, we focus on how to get motivated (we seek encouragement,validationsolutions and answers) from these videos and messages whilst forgetting the most important thing; which is how we can change ourselves for the better by actually taking action and making tremendous use of the motivational speeches, videos, etc.

Motivational videos, quotes, songs and messages are not just there to motivate you. They serve as a call to action, to improve and change you. Do not be a victim of a temporary boost!. The next time you are watching a motivational video, pause and replay it repeatedly till the message sinks into your mind and soul, and if need be, jot down a few points that relate to your current situation and what you have learnt that can make you an effective and successful being and then start to act and move relentlessly.

Aspire to make a difference, not a living.

Before you get motivated:

  1. Have a plan, reason or purpose
  2. Incorporate discipline into achieving your plan,reason or purpose and take massive action towards them (Life goals, dreams and future)
  3. Attach deadlines to each and every goal until you check them off. (It can be weekly, monthly, yearly or even future goals)
  4. Condition your mind to be the best everyday and do not settle for less. You deserve great things.

Now bear in mind, it is normal for those deadlines to change/shift depending on situations/circumstances or what “life throws at us.” So you need to  constantly make changes or adjust the deadlines where necessary and let your goals motivate you. With direction from God and this positive way of exercising the brain, mind and soul, the sky will not be your limit because there are no limits for YOU. There are only plateaus which you must go beyond and overcome.

Motivation is like food for the brain, you can not get enough at a sitting. You need continual and regular refills of purpose mixed in motivation. Motivation with purpose will lighten up anyone’s life.

 

Peace and Light,

Sika Sunshine

 

 

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THE WAIT IS WORTH IT! (Things to do before and during dating, courting or marriage)

Pray about it – The sooner you start committing your marriage into his holy hands, the less mistakes you end up making. Of course, you will make mistakes (they are part of human growth and development) but the mistakes you encounter when you have God in the center, will not break your relationship but will make it more beautiful and serve as a learning tool. Courtship or marriage is a spiritual before physical bond between two individuals and as such needs spiritual preparation first, that is if you are considering a healthy and long-term relationship.

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Start committing any type of relationship you might have or want to have into God’s hands and He will guide and link you to someone who is not just a soul mate, but a BFF and success coach for life!

Be Patient – Many people rush into relationships without even getting to truly know each other. It does not matter how long you have known each other. People change, pretend and do all sorts of things in order to get what they want. So you need time (a lot of it) whiles getting to know the one.” Unfortunately, this is the step many people ignore which causes them to make terrible mistakes. If you have a good understanding and perspective of what a relationship echoes and what it entails; waiting a couple of years before committing into one is no big deal, its worth it.

A successful relationship is dependent on the mindset of the two individual.

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“Patience is not only about the ability to wait but the ability to have a good attitude while waiting.”

Be Observant and judicious – This is another critical element which if, implemented in the course, or, in the very beginning of a relationship  saves you from making dimwitted mistakes and saves you time as well. Women tend to make this mistake a lot because they are either in a rush to be loved, or perhaps “blinded by love.”

They therefore, do not pay attention or intentionally ignore the red flags (the habits, behavior, etc.) and realize their mistake halfway into the relationship or in some cases at the end of the relationship. This then leads to breakups, divorces, separation and other unpleasant outcomes.

In short, whether you are a man or woman, don’t ignore the “signs.” These signs are revealed to disclose to you that “this man” is no good for you, or “this woman” is no good for you or maybe that you need to carefully assess and ask yourself and your significant other some questions.

Always build your self- worth and know what you want before getting into a relationship. Don’t compromise!, else you will end up hurting yourself.

NB: If you can change your partner for the better, that is awesome!! but if they do not want your help or you can’t change them. Move on!

Pay ATTENTION and don’t let any of those signs pass you by because the consequences are sad.

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~John Mark Green~

There are many vital things to implement and consider in a relationship but these are just a few main ones i think people should look out for. PLEASE leave a comment if you think i left something out and share your thoughts as well.

“Relationships end too soon because people stop putting the same effort to keep you as they did to win you.”

Take your time, good relationships don’t just happen.

 

Importance of Self-Love

In my journey of attaining self-love, i am discovering interesting and great importance of self-love and self-worth (they are somehow interconnected). It is my wish that anyone reading this can relate, to be able to understand and enjoy the benefits of self-love. Here are a few points/tips i would like to share

  • First of all, Self-love gives you courage to move out of your comfort zone. To take risks and to achieve “small wins” in life which turn into Great achievements. Just think about the things that limit you to do certain things e.g. shyness. When you are shy, you are unable to do more, or go extra. You are always in the “below average” or “average” zone which is unhealthy if you want to be successful. In a nutshell, self-love erases intimidation.

 

  • Secondly, When you know your self worth, nobody can bring you down. You only absorb what is useful and discard what is not meaningful to you.

 

  • Self-love makes you the master of “your game.” You are your own boss and no one can intimidate you, because you know who you are and what you want.

 

  • Last but not the least, Self-love is a confirmation to you, your soul, mind and body that you are a master piece of life. Because you are Unique! Learn to appreciate the “whole you,” the imperfections, perfections, weaknesses and strengths that makes you up, and learn how to perfect yourself from the good and ugly side of you.

Self love equals confidence and confidence equals power. Therefore, self-love is power and nobody should take your power away from you because it (self-love) belongs to you. Let this month be your month of self-love and self appreciation of the inner and outer YOU! 

You only live once, so while you have breath be Confident, Dream Big and Achieve your Goals!