Being Confident & Rich in your singleness {Single hood}…My message to you

What a beautiful day to be alive, to share something with you…that i know for sure will have an impact on your way of life and daily decision. Keep reading…

I learnt something very important from a sermon by pastor T.D Jake and i decided to share it here, so you can also be blessed by it.  I will go straight to the point.. and you can watch my YouTube video here Things Singles Ought To Know , where i elaborate more on some points and things ya should know.

Being single does not mean you are incomplete. Today, many people; adults, teenagers and sadly some adolescents rush into relationships, dating, etc. Ask yourself in all honesty, what is/ are your reason(s) to go into a relationship. Does your answer make sense? Is it worth it? Have you even prayed about it? Read this THE WAIT IS WORTH IT! (Things to do before and during dating, courting or marriage) Do not go into a relationship because of peer pressure, societal pressure, financial help and the likes, and most importantly do not rush to be in one at all.

If you are financially unstable, do not rely on a man or woman for money or material stuff. Sweat and work hard & smart for your own money and be faithful to your struggles. Don’t cheat life or find shortcuts. Make your dream life come true honorably through your hard work, consistency, determination and a Go-getting mindset. If others can be self-made and live comfortably without being born into wealth or even having a platform set for them. Why can’t you? –we are all the same… no one is more human than the other. How we use our time, energy and resources, opportunities, struggles, etc, is what separates a successful person from an unsuccessful one.

Be happy as a single; do not be eager to be in a relationship. Work on yourself , build interests, hobbies aside from church, school or work. Love and cater for your whole self (body, mind, spirit & soul) and use that period to deepen your relationship with God; so you can understand and know the worth and true meaning of a beautiful relationship; one that is true, understanding, honest, peaceful, unconditionally loving; one that will help you emotionally, spiritually and physically and mold you into the best version of yourself.

As a single person you need to live and commit to what you have. DON’T overspend or do the most, when you do not have enough. Cut your coat according to your size, to avoid the temptation of looking elsewhere for help –It’s pure laziness in my opinion. And of course, everything great takes time, there will be challenges, delays, bumps here and there….no one said it will be easy and no one said it’s impossible either. But at the end it is all worth it; if you get to call it “Your own money,” from your hard work, tears and determination. So believe in you and depend on what you can do by being productive (your daily habits, etc) –with that in mind and God’s intervention, you will soar high like an eagle. You will be Unstoppable!

Know your worth, your vision, goals & direction in life. Get to know yourself (self-love and self-discovery) and enjoy every moment of it. This goes to the ladies especially; know your worth and build yourself. When the time is right, things will surely fall into place. So, Focus on what matters, same applies to the gents; one thing at a time. Don’t give in, Don’t give up. EVER!

Until my next blog,

Remember to Flee from Temptations &

Blossom and Shine Always 😊

Sika Sunshine

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THE WAIT IS WORTH IT! (Things to do before and during dating, courting or marriage)

Pray about it – The sooner you start committing your marriage into his holy hands, the less mistakes you end up making. Of course, you will make mistakes (they are part of human growth and development) but the mistakes you encounter when you have God in the center, will not break your relationship but will make it more beautiful and serve as a learning tool. Courtship or marriage is a spiritual before physical bond between two individuals and as such needs spiritual preparation first, that is if you are considering a healthy and long-term relationship.

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Start committing any type of relationship you might have or want to have into God’s hands and He will guide and link you to someone who is not just a soul mate, but a BFF and success coach for life!

Be Patient – Many people rush into relationships without even getting to truly know each other. It does not matter how long you have known each other. People change, pretend and do all sorts of things in order to get what they want. So you need time (a lot of it) whiles getting to know the one.” Unfortunately, this is the step many people ignore which causes them to make terrible mistakes. If you have a good understanding and perspective of what a relationship echoes and what it entails; waiting a couple of years before committing into one is no big deal, its worth it.

A successful relationship is dependent on the mindset of the two individual.

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“Patience is not only about the ability to wait but the ability to have a good attitude while waiting.”

Be Observant and judicious – This is another critical element which if, implemented in the course, or, in the very beginning of a relationship  saves you from making dimwitted mistakes and saves you time as well. Women tend to make this mistake a lot because they are either in a rush to be loved, or perhaps “blinded by love.”

They therefore, do not pay attention or intentionally ignore the red flags (the habits, behavior, etc.) and realize their mistake halfway into the relationship or in some cases at the end of the relationship. This then leads to breakups, divorces, separation and other unpleasant outcomes.

In short, whether you are a man or woman, don’t ignore the “signs.” These signs are revealed to disclose to you that “this man” is no good for you, or “this woman” is no good for you or maybe that you need to carefully assess and ask yourself and your significant other some questions.

Always build your self- worth and know what you want before getting into a relationship. Don’t compromise!, else you will end up hurting yourself.

NB: If you can change your partner for the better, that is awesome!! but if they do not want your help or you can’t change them. Move on!

Pay ATTENTION and don’t let any of those signs pass you by because the consequences are sad.

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~John Mark Green~

There are many vital things to implement and consider in a relationship but these are just a few main ones i think people should look out for. PLEASE leave a comment if you think i left something out and share your thoughts as well.

“Relationships end too soon because people stop putting the same effort to keep you as they did to win you.”

Take your time, good relationships don’t just happen.