Being Confident & Rich in your singleness {Single hood}…My message to you

What a beautiful day to be alive, to share something with you…that i know for sure will have an impact on your way of life and daily decision. Keep reading…

I learnt something very important from a sermon by pastor T.D Jake and i decided to share it here, so you can also be blessed by it.  I will go straight to the point.. and you can watch my YouTube video here Things Singles Ought To Know , where i elaborate more on some points and things ya should know.

Being single does not mean you are incomplete. Today, many people; adults, teenagers and sadly some adolescents rush into relationships, dating, etc. Ask yourself in all honesty, what is/ are your reason(s) to go into a relationship. Does your answer make sense? Is it worth it? Have you even prayed about it? Read this THE WAIT IS WORTH IT! (Things to do before and during dating, courting or marriage) Do not go into a relationship because of peer pressure, societal pressure, financial help and the likes, and most importantly do not rush to be in one at all.

If you are financially unstable, do not rely on a man or woman for money or material stuff. Sweat and work hard & smart for your own money and be faithful to your struggles. Don’t cheat life or find shortcuts. Make your dream life come true honorably through your hard work, consistency, determination and a Go-getting mindset. If others can be self-made and live comfortably without being born into wealth or even having a platform set for them. Why can’t you? –we are all the same… no one is more human than the other. How we use our time, energy and resources, opportunities, struggles, etc, is what separates a successful person from an unsuccessful one.

Be happy as a single; do not be eager to be in a relationship. Work on yourself , build interests, hobbies aside from church, school or work. Love and cater for your whole self (body, mind, spirit & soul) and use that period to deepen your relationship with God; so you can understand and know the worth and true meaning of a beautiful relationship; one that is true, understanding, honest, peaceful, unconditionally loving; one that will help you emotionally, spiritually and physically and mold you into the best version of yourself.

As a single person you need to live and commit to what you have. DON’T overspend or do the most, when you do not have enough. Cut your coat according to your size, to avoid the temptation of looking elsewhere for help –It’s pure laziness in my opinion. And of course, everything great takes time, there will be challenges, delays, bumps here and there….no one said it will be easy and no one said it’s impossible either. But at the end it is all worth it; if you get to call it “Your own money,” from your hard work, tears and determination. So believe in you and depend on what you can do by being productive (your daily habits, etc) –with that in mind and God’s intervention, you will soar high like an eagle. You will be Unstoppable!

Know your worth, your vision, goals & direction in life. Get to know yourself (self-love and self-discovery) and enjoy every moment of it. This goes to the ladies especially; know your worth and build yourself. When the time is right, things will surely fall into place. So, Focus on what matters, same applies to the gents; one thing at a time. Don’t give in, Don’t give up. EVER!

Until my next blog,

Remember to Flee from Temptations &

Blossom and Shine Always 😊

Sika Sunshine

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It’s been a minute since i last posted, well that is because Life happens my friend. It’s truly a roller coaster; scary, overwhelming and a little bit of everything, yet you have to enjoy it and just BE. Don’t leave the seat without screaming, shouting, stamping your feet, listening to to the rhythm of your breath, and coming out with a teary eye and a big fat smile; wanting to do it all over again. Live well, live smart, live good, live happy. The journey is going to change you, challenge you, make you cry, smile, scream and all sorts of things and emotions. But do not let them hold you from living a happy and meaningful life. Remember you only live once, so make it count, make it worth your while!


I have learned so much within the first half of 2018, probably more than what i am about to share with you now, but these lessons have greatly affected my perspective on life and how to live smart, wise and intentional. So get comfy because i am about to write my heart off! There will also be a part 2 of this so watch out, and i will leave a link to my new YouTube. So please check it out and subscribe!😊

 

Lesson 1.  Everybody has problems, the fact that you don’t know about it or they do not tell you about it, does not mean they have a perfect life or that they are okay.

A great example is social media, the fact that you always see beautiful pictures of  people on insta, fb, or any other social media platform does not mean they have a perfect life. They are human, so obviously they will have some “ups” and “downs” in their life. Social media today, especially on Instagram, people choose only to post their happy and glamorous moments, which is perfectly fine, there is nothing wrong with that. You do not expect them to post the negative and sensitive aspects of their family or life matters, that is up to them to decide if they want to share it with the public or not. So do not think you are unfortunate or unlucky, because we all suffer at a point in our life. Although some suffer more than others, we all do suffer at a point.

PS. Some just show off on social media, be it, that they have what they are showing off or not. So don’t stress yourself. ;

Lesson 2.  Be kind to Everybody, but don’t be afraid of Anybody.

Feel free to express yourself in the most harmless way to anyone, and do not mistake  respect and kindness for fear and shyness. They are totally different. I used to confuse them, but i know better now . I used to be the type of person that would just let things be, or not say much because i wanted to be nice and respectful, but deep down it did not feel good, because i was not outspoken. It is not the best feeling at all. There is nothing wrong with being outspoken or voicing out, it only becomes a problem if it’s not communicated well. (Because humans are sensitive, quick to judge and take things too personal at times, so treat everyone as if they were too emotional). Be considerate of your words, but also speak the truth. Because it is really frustrating and annoying when someone underestimate your entire being/existence or takes you for granted just because you are an introvert.

Lesson 3.  Take care of yourself spiritually, mentally and physically.

This is very important for a healthy, productive and fulfilling life. Your life has to be a balance, a little bit of everything makes your life bubbly and amazing. Be mentally and physically attractive for YOURSELF! DON’T DO IT FOR ANYBODY. Look and feel good for yourself, be mentally attractive as well; ponder over complex and mind-blowing stuff. Do and try something new often.

Mental health is such a big problem in this world now, so it is important to engage in physical and fruitful activities that will keep your mind in a right place. If you need help, confide in someone, and if you do not have anyone, the best person to cast your burdens on is God. It sounds cheesy, but it is the truth. There were times i did not know who to talk to about my problems, i became a blabber mouth..lol, telling my problems to just anyone, and the wrong people at times. It’s not that i did not have anyone to talk to, but i felt the people i trusted would not understand my problem the way i did, because i used to be a very emotional person. So later, i started to talk to myself by writing in a journal; i would cry, laugh and encourage myself and those series and episodes of emotions and experiences inspired me to create this blog. It felt good journaling and having the mindset that “no condition is permanent.” God was helping me to motivate myself and stay strong through my journals, and i began to understand His Word more than before. He is real guys, he really cares and loves us 100%. He wants the best for us and he wants us to talk to him everyday like we do with our best friends, family, etc. I pray that you find peace and strength in the Lord as you read this, no matter what you are going through. Don’t fall yet, don’t end it. It is not the way, it is not right. I also suggest limiting your time watching social media, it’s fun and all, but sometimes just silence the social-virtual life and live in the real life e.g Go for a walk, ride a bike, go to the gym, crochet, play math games,listen to inspirational podcasts, the list could go on and on. You know it!, you know what works for you, learn about yourself and what works for you ;). My goal is to be 100% spiritual, 100% mentally healthy, and attain my fitness goals 100% ; I will do so by working equally hard towards all of them, and I hope you do same.

Lesson 4.  You don’t always get what you want, the way you want it, and when you want it.

This lesson has taught me to be patient in life. I am still learning how to be patient and not to expect things so quickly and out of nowhere…lol. Patience is really hard to tame, it takes daily experience, challenges and certain circumstances to really develop and cultivate it. Be very positive, but keep in mind, that life as you see it, does not always give you what you want or what you want to hear. So always expect and prepare for any outcome, just do your part; do your best and do anything you do with confidence and to the best of your ability, and leave the rest for God and mother nature to take care of.

Be ready to compromise when necessary, accept the things you can not change, and change what you can. Have at least 3-5 backup plans in terms of an idea, project, goals,etc and life will not betray you.

Lesson 5.  Don’t compare yourself to others, You are enough!

Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with wanting to be the best version of yourself and being comfortable in life. The real problem starts the minute, you start wishing you were someone else, had their lifestyle and every other tempting and materialistic stuff. Instead let them–the people you are comparing yourself to, be an inspiration or point of reference for you to release your inner potential, to become what you have always envisioned for yourself, by working smart and hustling hard.

Have a thankful heart at all times, because somebody might wish they had what you appreciate less in your life.

Moreover, you do not know how people become what they are, whether it was through a right/ meaningful way or worth it. You can however choose how your success story will be made. So be grateful, because a grateful heart is like a magnet that attracts miracles and blessings from above. I stopped comparing myself to others, when i started channeling it into working on the things i want to achieve and by focusing. Because all the people we compare ourselves to, all started from somewhere to get to where they are now. So can i, and so can you. So change your mentality and get to work. Comparing yourself to others is a waste of precious time, You are ENOUGH! So stay and shine in your lane.

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Blossom and Shine Always,

Sika Sunshine💖

THE WAIT IS WORTH IT! (Things to do before and during dating, courting or marriage)

Pray about it – The sooner you start committing your marriage into his holy hands, the less mistakes you end up making. Of course, you will make mistakes (they are part of human growth and development) but the mistakes you encounter when you have God in the center, will not break your relationship but will make it more beautiful and serve as a learning tool. Courtship or marriage is a spiritual before physical bond between two individuals and as such needs spiritual preparation first, that is if you are considering a healthy and long-term relationship.

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Start committing any type of relationship you might have or want to have into God’s hands and He will guide and link you to someone who is not just a soul mate, but a BFF and success coach for life!

Be Patient – Many people rush into relationships without even getting to truly know each other. It does not matter how long you have known each other. People change, pretend and do all sorts of things in order to get what they want. So you need time (a lot of it) whiles getting to know the one.” Unfortunately, this is the step many people ignore which causes them to make terrible mistakes. If you have a good understanding and perspective of what a relationship echoes and what it entails; waiting a couple of years before committing into one is no big deal, its worth it.

A successful relationship is dependent on the mindset of the two individual.

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“Patience is not only about the ability to wait but the ability to have a good attitude while waiting.”

Be Observant and judicious – This is another critical element which if, implemented in the course, or, in the very beginning of a relationship  saves you from making dimwitted mistakes and saves you time as well. Women tend to make this mistake a lot because they are either in a rush to be loved, or perhaps “blinded by love.”

They therefore, do not pay attention or intentionally ignore the red flags (the habits, behavior, etc.) and realize their mistake halfway into the relationship or in some cases at the end of the relationship. This then leads to breakups, divorces, separation and other unpleasant outcomes.

In short, whether you are a man or woman, don’t ignore the “signs.” These signs are revealed to disclose to you that “this man” is no good for you, or “this woman” is no good for you or maybe that you need to carefully assess and ask yourself and your significant other some questions.

Always build your self- worth and know what you want before getting into a relationship. Don’t compromise!, else you will end up hurting yourself.

NB: If you can change your partner for the better, that is awesome!! but if they do not want your help or you can’t change them. Move on!

Pay ATTENTION and don’t let any of those signs pass you by because the consequences are sad.

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~John Mark Green~

There are many vital things to implement and consider in a relationship but these are just a few main ones i think people should look out for. PLEASE leave a comment if you think i left something out and share your thoughts as well.

“Relationships end too soon because people stop putting the same effort to keep you as they did to win you.”

Take your time, good relationships don’t just happen.