Being Confident & Rich in your singleness {Single hood}…My message to you

What a beautiful day to be alive, to share something with you…that i know for sure will have an impact on your way of life and daily decision. Keep reading…

I learnt something very important from a sermon by pastor T.D Jake and i decided to share it here, so you can also be blessed by it.  I will go straight to the point.. and you can watch my YouTube video here Things Singles Ought To Know , where i elaborate more on some points and things ya should know.

Being single does not mean you are incomplete. Today, many people; adults, teenagers and sadly some adolescents rush into relationships, dating, etc. Ask yourself in all honesty, what is/ are your reason(s) to go into a relationship. Does your answer make sense? Is it worth it? Have you even prayed about it? Read this THE WAIT IS WORTH IT! (Things to do before and during dating, courting or marriage) Do not go into a relationship because of peer pressure, societal pressure, financial help and the likes, and most importantly do not rush to be in one at all.

If you are financially unstable, do not rely on a man or woman for money or material stuff. Sweat and work hard & smart for your own money and be faithful to your struggles. Don’t cheat life or find shortcuts. Make your dream life come true honorably through your hard work, consistency, determination and a Go-getting mindset. If others can be self-made and live comfortably without being born into wealth or even having a platform set for them. Why can’t you? –we are all the same… no one is more human than the other. How we use our time, energy and resources, opportunities, struggles, etc, is what separates a successful person from an unsuccessful one.

Be happy as a single; do not be eager to be in a relationship. Work on yourself , build interests, hobbies aside from church, school or work. Love and cater for your whole self (body, mind, spirit & soul) and use that period to deepen your relationship with God; so you can understand and know the worth and true meaning of a beautiful relationship; one that is true, understanding, honest, peaceful, unconditionally loving; one that will help you emotionally, spiritually and physically and mold you into the best version of yourself.

As a single person you need to live and commit to what you have. DON’T overspend or do the most, when you do not have enough. Cut your coat according to your size, to avoid the temptation of looking elsewhere for help –It’s pure laziness in my opinion. And of course, everything great takes time, there will be challenges, delays, bumps here and there….no one said it will be easy and no one said it’s impossible either. But at the end it is all worth it; if you get to call it “Your own money,” from your hard work, tears and determination. So believe in you and depend on what you can do by being productive (your daily habits, etc) –with that in mind and God’s intervention, you will soar high like an eagle. You will be Unstoppable!

Know your worth, your vision, goals & direction in life. Get to know yourself (self-love and self-discovery) and enjoy every moment of it. This goes to the ladies especially; know your worth and build yourself. When the time is right, things will surely fall into place. So, Focus on what matters, same applies to the gents; one thing at a time. Don’t give in, Don’t give up. EVER!

Until my next blog,

Remember to Flee from Temptations &

Blossom and Shine Always 😊

Sika Sunshine

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Be Spiritual not Religious

🎀I am a sunshine girl, that is building her relationship with God from scratch, i share faith related topics and other random stuffs because i want the youth to make less mistakes and live a life that is intentional and pleasing to God, and themselves. Everything written here is based of my experience and/ or opinion, so don’t get it twisted.

I viewed Christianity as a complex relationship of laws and expectations instead of a mutual and sweet relationship with God, so i ended up not being myself. Not knowing i was deceiving myself, God, my soul and spirit, which is just not right. It took me some time to realize that my life in the open should not be any different from my life in private, because God sees, hears and feels everything before we even do them.

My point is God did not say Christians can not have fun or entertain themselves. What he did say is that we should flee and cut out worldly things from our life. My understanding of that is, if a song causes you to lust, indulge in an unhealthy and sinful behavior (stealing, smoking, pornography, etc) or makes you praise mankind and the things of the world more than you do, to and for your Heavenly Father, then you are lost in the world, and you need HIM in your life. We make Christianity hard for ourselves, by taking the Word literally instead of Understanding His Word, with the help of the Holy Spirit.

God uses the Holy Spirit to explain his teachings to us, to help us discern between what is good and right; and in other areas of our life we need to  make use  of our common sense. For instance, you know lusting after someone is a sin and bad, so you need to make the effort to occupy your mind with things that are just and acceptable to God e.g. Join a group, occupy your leisure time with fruitful activities such as dancing, painting, drawing, going to the gym, or hanging out with the right people, etc, all these activities can be enjoyed to glory of God; because the Holy Spirit is not going to come down and rescue you. He is already  inside those who seek him intentionally and on a daily basis. He helps us toughen our spirit to resist temptation, but the rest is up to you to bring your body under subjection to your spirit, that is why we the youth especially need to abstain from unnecessary relationships and other immoral acts because it draws you further away from God’s presence and causes you to sin prematurely.

God wants us to have fun, God wants us to be happy, but he wants us to use our common sense and wisdom from the Word to do what is right for our body, mind, soul and spirit, and most importantly pleasing to Him. So if you are doing something that is causing you to sin, no matter how big or small the sin is, it is still a SIN, and you need to work on it.

Ask God for help and direction, don’t sin with your eyes and don’t think you are too tough or stable not to fall into temptation, because the devil works in many subtle ways and will deceive you into thinking that what you are doing is normal or part of a growing process in biology (like hormonal changes).**sigh**

All in all, what i want you to pick from this message is that Understand the Word of God, don’t just read and memorize scriptures, let them make sense to you, even if that means reading it several times. And what you can not do in public, do not do in private. God sees you!, so make sure you are clean. You do not need to be perfect but you need to be spiritually tough and fit to be able to flee when it is time to flee. Let your Yes be your Yes and your No be your No.

HOPE THIS MAKES SENSE TO SOMEONE, I WILL HAVE ANOTHER POST ON WHETHER CHRISTIANS CAN OR SHOULD LISTEN TO SECULAR MUSIC, SO SUBSCRIBE TO MY BLOG SO AS TO NOT MISS IT.

As always, please do comment so i can also learn from you, because that is the one of the purpose of Forever, Blossom & Shine. 

 

Peace,

Sika Sunshine 😉