Being Confident & Rich in your singleness {Single hood}…My message to you

What a beautiful day to be alive, to share something with you…that i know for sure will have an impact on your way of life and daily decision. Keep reading…

I learnt something very important from a sermon by pastor T.D Jake and i decided to share it here, so you can also be blessed by it.  I will go straight to the point.. and you can watch my YouTube video here Things Singles Ought To Know , where i elaborate more on some points and things ya should know.

Being single does not mean you are incomplete. Today, many people; adults, teenagers and sadly some adolescents rush into relationships, dating, etc. Ask yourself in all honesty, what is/ are your reason(s) to go into a relationship. Does your answer make sense? Is it worth it? Have you even prayed about it? Read this THE WAIT IS WORTH IT! (Things to do before and during dating, courting or marriage) Do not go into a relationship because of peer pressure, societal pressure, financial help and the likes, and most importantly do not rush to be in one at all.

If you are financially unstable, do not rely on a man or woman for money or material stuff. Sweat and work hard & smart for your own money and be faithful to your struggles. Don’t cheat life or find shortcuts. Make your dream life come true honorably through your hard work, consistency, determination and a Go-getting mindset. If others can be self-made and live comfortably without being born into wealth or even having a platform set for them. Why can’t you? –we are all the same… no one is more human than the other. How we use our time, energy and resources, opportunities, struggles, etc, is what separates a successful person from an unsuccessful one.

Be happy as a single; do not be eager to be in a relationship. Work on yourself , build interests, hobbies aside from church, school or work. Love and cater for your whole self (body, mind, spirit & soul) and use that period to deepen your relationship with God; so you can understand and know the worth and true meaning of a beautiful relationship; one that is true, understanding, honest, peaceful, unconditionally loving; one that will help you emotionally, spiritually and physically and mold you into the best version of yourself.

As a single person you need to live and commit to what you have. DON’T overspend or do the most, when you do not have enough. Cut your coat according to your size, to avoid the temptation of looking elsewhere for help –It’s pure laziness in my opinion. And of course, everything great takes time, there will be challenges, delays, bumps here and there….no one said it will be easy and no one said it’s impossible either. But at the end it is all worth it; if you get to call it “Your own money,” from your hard work, tears and determination. So believe in you and depend on what you can do by being productive (your daily habits, etc) –with that in mind and God’s intervention, you will soar high like an eagle. You will be Unstoppable!

Know your worth, your vision, goals & direction in life. Get to know yourself (self-love and self-discovery) and enjoy every moment of it. This goes to the ladies especially; know your worth and build yourself. When the time is right, things will surely fall into place. So, Focus on what matters, same applies to the gents; one thing at a time. Don’t give in, Don’t give up. EVER!

Until my next blog,

Remember to Flee from Temptations &

Blossom and Shine Always 😊

Sika Sunshine

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Wellness Habits ( Things to do when you are down or feel unmotivated)

Life can get tough at times, with the stress, anxiety, anger, sadness, and the difficult times you have no control over & so much more.

God hears us when we pray, His delay is not His denial. Every Challenge and obstacle you face is  bound to happen (Ecclesiastes 3:4) ; to teach you a life lesson, to prepare you for the future ahead, or to give you an experience so you may be able to grow through what you went through, and make wise decisions. So do not throw in the towel yet, because God will sort you out.

In this post, i will be sharing with you some of the Things i do when i am feeling down or feel unmotivated, with the hope that it can help someone during those times. I believe everyone goes through that moment once in a while, and it is nothing to be ashamed of. What you do with your time during those moments is what counts, because it can further destroy you or build you. It’s all up to you and the choices and decisions you take or make, at that very moment. So be smart.

1. One thing, i have started doing more of is exercising! I do not exercise only to be fit. I exercise because of its many benefits and the fact that it protects my sanity, Yass!. It helps me release negative & toxic energy/stress. Exercise gives me this awesomazing feeling (made that word up, because the feeling is indescribable). So, include exercise gradually and daily into your lifestyle; it could be riding a bike, to having a morning or nature walk, jogging, hitting the gym, etc. After all, the only bad workout is the one you did not do😉.

~ “To enjoy the glow of glow of good health, you must exercise. It is a shame for mankind to grow old without seeing the beauty and strength of which the body is capable of.” ~

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~ Shona Vertue ~

 

2. Believe and trust in God’s plan. I strongly believe that a stable spirit & soul starts from being mentally fit ( so work on your mind; the things you watch, fantasize about, etc. You need to cut everything that is unjust & unhealthy for your mind, your self and your emotional well-being, even if it means cutting certain people out of your life, etc).

I prefer to be active before i read the scripture or worship. For example, if i want to pray or meditate on the Word of God at 5 am. I would obviously wash my face, brush my teeth, a few stretching, etc to wake up before i can give my undivided attention to God because i need to be present in that moment, & it might be a different case for someone, that’s totally fine because we are all different in the way we do things.

Similarly, when you are going through a rough time, it is sometimes difficult to jump straight into the Word of God, because you are drained mentally, emotionally and spiritually. So figure out what makes you spiritually present/awake, it could be exercise, music, listening to a motivational video, the testimony of successful/ great people’s story & how they made it despite their various and many obstacles. Then Meditate on God’s plan and promises for you. Because He wants us to stay in contact with Him, through the good & bad times, so He can give us the enduring strength to overcome everything and anything life throws at us. So, don’t let your sufferings prevent you from shining, its not an excuse. We all suffer… some might suffer than others, but  we all suffer and face challenges at a point in our life.  So, Ask God to grant you the courage to change the things you can, and intervene on your behalf to overcome the things you can not change or have no control over. Because He will always be with you and me.

 

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3. I cheer myself up by writing/blogging. I love to write/blog because it is one of the few times i really come out of my comfort zone. I am able to express my thoughts, share tips, advice and other random stuffs via this blog and YouTube. I feel the most productive and positive when i write because not only do i want to help people with the content i share, but i also want to inspire and improve upon myself, because i learn something new everyday. No matter how down i am or feel, writing helps me reach a peaceful state of mind & being. It brings me joy, and adds purpose to my life, because i get to share advice, tips, honest opinions, etc with readers on this blog. So, find something that means a lot to you or  brings you joy or satisfaction, it could be a reason or purpose for living , a hobby, a talent, work and so much more. Be Strong and smile it all out, even when it seems impossible, because no condition lasts forever, it will never be permanent, if you also work towards it.

 

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~ Whitney Madueke ~

 

4. Do things that brings you inner joy & peace. It could be painting, dancing, meditation, cleaning/tidying or organizing your space, dressing up, watching a movie, baking, etc. Try to do anything helpful and worthwhile to center yourself away from your stress and problems.

I like to watch action movies, comedy or movies based on true stories, and indulge in creative stuff(s). Movies are inspiring and fun to watch; Nikita helped me build my confidence because she was smart, strong & fearless; Queen of Katwe taught me that you should never give up on your dream, and that you can make it Big whether you have the resources or not, as long as you love what you do and you do it well, God will surely send a person your way that will discover you and your talent, and will help you “climb up the ladder” & Step up: Rise up and Dance inspired me to be serious about my fitness goal.

So, watching movies can be a great way to release stress and learn as well. Moreover, Painting and drawing, surprisingly has many emotional and mental benefits as well. So use your time wisely and  live life even through those hard times. Don’t be mean to yourself.

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Sika _Sunshine ~

 

5. I  like to write inspirational quotes to myself and paste it on the wall, or anywhere visible so i can always see it, and be reminded of it. If you have watched “Being Mary Jane,” you will notice that she always has these notes plastered on her mirrors and at her job, and whenever she is going through something she would grab one with a powerful quote or positive affirmation. This little act made me realize the power of positive affirmations and i have incorporated it into my life. It could be a sentence, paragraph or 3 words, as long as it means something powerful to you. It really helps, because you are basically declaring and decreeing goodness and blessings into your life. And there is power in words, if you have Faith.

Try it, you can thank me later!😊

 

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🎇So, remember you are not alone in this life journey and all that it comes with, the fact that people do not show their sad and/ or down moments especially on social media, does not mean they have it all figured out, and are the most luckiest people in the world. Nah!, they just don’t want you to see what goes on behind the scenes of their glamorous and “perfect” life – and that is okay, because it is their business. But don’t hurt yourself mentally or compare yourself with, or, to anyone for those reasons. Shine in your zone, be a light in your own life. Be smart & make wise decisions ; Flee & resist temptations and most importantly, Be yourself and Blossom & Shine Always.🎇

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Until my next post,

Stay Awesome and be Blessed ✌

 

Be Spiritual not Religious

🎀I am a sunshine girl, that is building her relationship with God from scratch, i share faith related topics and other random stuffs because i want the youth to make less mistakes and live a life that is intentional and pleasing to God, and themselves. Everything written here is based of my experience and/ or opinion, so don’t get it twisted.

I viewed Christianity as a complex relationship of laws and expectations instead of a mutual and sweet relationship with God, so i ended up not being myself. Not knowing i was deceiving myself, God, my soul and spirit, which is just not right. It took me some time to realize that my life in the open should not be any different from my life in private, because God sees, hears and feels everything before we even do them.

My point is God did not say Christians can not have fun or entertain themselves. What he did say is that we should flee and cut out worldly things from our life. My understanding of that is, if a song causes you to lust, indulge in an unhealthy and sinful behavior (stealing, smoking, pornography, etc) or makes you praise mankind and the things of the world more than you do, to and for your Heavenly Father, then you are lost in the world, and you need HIM in your life. We make Christianity hard for ourselves, by taking the Word literally instead of Understanding His Word, with the help of the Holy Spirit.

God uses the Holy Spirit to explain his teachings to us, to help us discern between what is good and right; and in other areas of our life we need to  make use  of our common sense. For instance, you know lusting after someone is a sin and bad, so you need to make the effort to occupy your mind with things that are just and acceptable to God e.g. Join a group, occupy your leisure time with fruitful activities such as dancing, painting, drawing, going to the gym, or hanging out with the right people, etc, all these activities can be enjoyed to glory of God; because the Holy Spirit is not going to come down and rescue you. He is already  inside those who seek him intentionally and on a daily basis. He helps us toughen our spirit to resist temptation, but the rest is up to you to bring your body under subjection to your spirit, that is why we the youth especially need to abstain from unnecessary relationships and other immoral acts because it draws you further away from God’s presence and causes you to sin prematurely.

God wants us to have fun, God wants us to be happy, but he wants us to use our common sense and wisdom from the Word to do what is right for our body, mind, soul and spirit, and most importantly pleasing to Him. So if you are doing something that is causing you to sin, no matter how big or small the sin is, it is still a SIN, and you need to work on it.

Ask God for help and direction, don’t sin with your eyes and don’t think you are too tough or stable not to fall into temptation, because the devil works in many subtle ways and will deceive you into thinking that what you are doing is normal or part of a growing process in biology (like hormonal changes).**sigh**

All in all, what i want you to pick from this message is that Understand the Word of God, don’t just read and memorize scriptures, let them make sense to you, even if that means reading it several times. And what you can not do in public, do not do in private. God sees you!, so make sure you are clean. You do not need to be perfect but you need to be spiritually tough and fit to be able to flee when it is time to flee. Let your Yes be your Yes and your No be your No.

HOPE THIS MAKES SENSE TO SOMEONE, I WILL HAVE ANOTHER POST ON WHETHER CHRISTIANS CAN OR SHOULD LISTEN TO SECULAR MUSIC, SO SUBSCRIBE TO MY BLOG SO AS TO NOT MISS IT.

As always, please do comment so i can also learn from you, because that is the one of the purpose of Forever, Blossom & Shine. 

 

Peace,

Sika Sunshine 😉

 

 

Choices from your chances

Life can be easy, tough, difficult… you name it. But Life is not short, for those who know how to fully live their lives. We live in a “not so great world” today, where anything can happen anywhere and anyhow (very sad). But do not let that stop you from living a meaningful and satisfying life. Do what you love and love what you do every single day of your life. Plan for tomorrow, but always live in the moment. Wake up determined and go to bed satisfied and happy. Do not live life regretting, wishing and wanting. THERE IS NO TIME FOR THAT! Get up and go for it.

There is no best decision maker in this world, but your life comes down to the decisions you make at the end of the day, and if  you change your decisions, you change your life. Your life is a result of your choices, habits and experience. It is always easy to say the things we want to achieve in the next 2-5 years but the real deal comes to the work done in order to achieve that goal. And it is not impossible, it just takes a while to reach that point in life. You start from nowhere to get to somewhere, and that is the most glorious and inspiring transition anyone can experience.

 For some people, its hard to live their ideal dream because they might be in a situation where they are unable to unlock their energy and be truly happy because they are physically, emotionally and psychologically trapped e.g. Financial problems, Family issues…just to name a few. And as tough and very very distressing as that sounds, i assure you that there is always a way, i know it, even if it takes a while for you to find it, you will surely find it if you trust your struggles and believe that no condition is permanent.

 Always concentrate on what you want to do with your life, more than what is going on in your life. Because challenges will never fade away, you need not let challenges overcome you. But rather overcome them and change your STORY.

You have only one shot in life, and i am pretty sure that if you had a second chance to re-live your first life. You would not take it for granted or compromise your happiness. Many would try to live as perfect as possible; they would take risks, trust their gut, say what they felt,etc.

To conclude, life is not short when:

  • you run, until you run out of breath,
  • talk until you bite your tongue,
  • fight until you find your peace
  • act wise when you are young, and, silly when you are old
  • Dance until you find your rhythm