It’s been a minute since i last posted, well that is because Life happens my friend. It’s truly a roller coaster; scary, overwhelming and a little bit of everything, yet you have to enjoy it and just BE. Don’t leave the seat without screaming, shouting, stamping your feet, listening to to the rhythm of your breath, and coming out with a teary eye and a big fat smile; wanting to do it all over again. Live well, live smart, live good, live happy. The journey is going to change you, challenge you, make you cry, smile, scream and all sorts of things and emotions. But do not let them hold you from living a happy and meaningful life. Remember you only live once, so make it count, make it worth your while!
I have learned so much within the first half of 2018, probably more than what i am about to share with you now, but these lessons have greatly affected my perspective on life and how to live smart, wise and intentional. So get comfy because i am about to write my heart off! There will also be a part 2 of this so watch out, and i will leave a link to my new YouTube. So please check it out and subscribe!😊
Lesson 1. Everybody has problems, the fact that you don’t know about it or they do not tell you about it, does not mean they have a perfect life or that they are okay.
A great example is social media, the fact that you always see beautiful pictures of people on insta, fb, or any other social media platform does not mean they have a perfect life. They are human, so obviously they will have some “ups” and “downs” in their life. Social media today, especially on Instagram, people choose only to post their happy and glamorous moments, which is perfectly fine, there is nothing wrong with that. You do not expect them to post the negative and sensitive aspects of their family or life matters, that is up to them to decide if they want to share it with the public or not. So do not think you are unfortunate or unlucky, because we all suffer at a point in our life. Although some suffer more than others, we all do suffer at a point.
PS. Some just show off on social media, be it, that they have what they are showing off or not. So don’t stress yourself.
Lesson 2. Be kind to Everybody, but don’t be afraid of Anybody.
Feel free to express yourself in the most harmless way to anyone, and do not mistake respect and kindness for fear and shyness. They are totally different. I used to confuse them, but i know better now . I used to be the type of person that would just let things be, or not say much because i wanted to be nice and respectful, but deep down it did not feel good, because i was not outspoken. It is not the best feeling at all. There is nothing wrong with being outspoken or voicing out, it only becomes a problem if it’s not communicated well. (Because humans are sensitive, quick to judge and take things too personal at times, so treat everyone as if they were too emotional). Be considerate of your words, but also speak the truth. Because it is really frustrating and annoying when someone underestimate your entire being/existence or takes you for granted just because you are an introvert.
Lesson 3. Take care of yourself spiritually, mentally and physically.
This is very important for a healthy, productive and fulfilling life. Your life has to be a balance, a little bit of everything makes your life bubbly and amazing. Be mentally and physically attractive for YOURSELF! DON’T DO IT FOR ANYBODY. Look and feel good for yourself, be mentally attractive as well; ponder over complex and mind-blowing stuff. Do and try something new often.
Mental health is such a big problem in this world now, so it is important to engage in physical and fruitful activities that will keep your mind in a right place. If you need help, confide in someone, and if you do not have anyone, the best person to cast your burdens on is God. It sounds cheesy, but it is the truth. There were times i did not know who to talk to about my problems, i became a blabber mouth..lol, telling my problems to just anyone, and the wrong people at times. It’s not that i did not have anyone to talk to, but i felt the people i trusted would not understand my problem the way i did, because i used to be a very emotional person. So later, i started to talk to myself by writing in a journal; i would cry, laugh and encourage myself and those series and episodes of emotions and experiences inspired me to create this blog. It felt good journaling and having the mindset that “no condition is permanent.” God was helping me to motivate myself and stay strong through my journals, and i began to understand His Word more than before. He is real guys, he really cares and loves us 100%. He wants the best for us and he wants us to talk to him everyday like we do with our best friends, family, etc. I pray that you find peace and strength in the Lord as you read this, no matter what you are going through. Don’t fall yet, don’t end it. It is not the way, it is not right. I also suggest limiting your time watching social media, it’s fun and all, but sometimes just silence the social-virtual life and live in the real life e.g Go for a walk, ride a bike, go to the gym, crochet, play math games,listen to inspirational podcasts, the list could go on and on. You know it!, you know what works for you, learn about yourself and what works for you ;). My goal is to be 100% spiritual, 100% mentally healthy, and attain my fitness goals 100% ; I will do so by working equally hard towards all of them, and I hope you do same.
Lesson 4. You don’t always get what you want, the way you want it, and when you want it.
This lesson has taught me to be patient in life. I am still learning how to be patient and not to expect things so quickly and out of nowhere…lol. Patience is really hard to tame, it takes daily experience, challenges and certain circumstances to really develop and cultivate it. Be very positive, but keep in mind, that life as you see it, does not always give you what you want or what you want to hear. So always expect and prepare for any outcome, just do your part; do your best and do anything you do with confidence and to the best of your ability, and leave the rest for God and mother nature to take care of.
Be ready to compromise when necessary, accept the things you can not change, and change what you can. Have at least 3-5 backup plans in terms of an idea, project, goals,etc and life will not betray you.
Lesson 5. Don’t compare yourself to others, You are enough!
Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with wanting to be the best version of yourself and being comfortable in life. The real problem starts the minute, you start wishing you were someone else, had their lifestyle and every other tempting and materialistic stuff. Instead let them–the people you are comparing yourself to, be an inspiration or point of reference for you to release your inner potential, to become what you have always envisioned for yourself, by working smart and hustling hard.
Have a thankful heart at all times, because somebody might wish they had what you appreciate less in your life.
Moreover, you do not know how people become what they are, whether it was through a right/ meaningful way or worth it. You can however choose how your success story will be made. So be grateful, because a grateful heart is like a magnet that attracts miracles and blessings from above. I stopped comparing myself to others, when i started channeling it into working on the things i want to achieve and by focusing. Because all the people we compare ourselves to, all started from somewhere to get to where they are now. So can i, and so can you. So change your mentality and get to work. Comparing yourself to others is a waste of precious time, You are ENOUGH! So stay and shine in your lane.
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Blossom and Shine Always,