Be Spiritual not Religious

ūüéÄI am a sunshine girl, that is building her relationship with God from scratch, i share faith related topics and other random stuffs because i want the youth to make less mistakes and live a life that is intentional and pleasing to God, and themselves. Everything written here is based of my experience and/ or opinion, so don’t get it twisted.

I viewed Christianity as a complex relationship of laws and expectations instead of a mutual and sweet relationship with God, so i ended up not being myself. Not knowing i was deceiving myself, God, my soul and spirit, which is just not right. It took me some time to realize that my life in the open should not be any different from my life in private, because God sees, hears and feels everything before we even do them.

My point is God did not say Christians can not have fun or entertain themselves. What he did say is that we should flee and cut out worldly things from our life. My understanding of that is, if a song causes you to lust, indulge in an unhealthy and sinful behavior (stealing, smoking, pornography, etc) or makes you praise mankind and the things of the world more than you do, to and for your Heavenly Father, then you are lost in the world, and you need HIM in your life. We make Christianity hard for ourselves, by taking the Word literally instead of Understanding His Word, with the help of the Holy Spirit.

God uses the Holy Spirit to explain his teachings to us, to help us discern between what is good and right; and in other areas of our life we need to¬† make use¬† of our common sense. For instance, you know lusting after someone is a sin and bad, so you need to make the effort to occupy your mind with things that are just and acceptable to God e.g. Join a group, occupy your leisure time with fruitful activities such as dancing, painting, drawing, going to the gym, or hanging out with the right people, etc, all these activities can be enjoyed to glory of God; because the Holy Spirit is not going to come down and rescue you. He is already¬† inside those who seek him intentionally and on a daily basis. He helps us toughen our spirit to resist temptation, but the rest is up to you to bring your body under subjection to your spirit, that is why we the youth especially need to abstain from unnecessary relationships and other immoral acts because it draws you further away from God’s presence and causes you to sin prematurely.

God wants us to have fun, God wants us to be happy, but he wants us to use our common sense and wisdom from the Word to do what is right for our body, mind, soul and spirit, and most importantly pleasing to Him. So if you are doing something that is causing you to sin, no matter how big or small the sin is, it is still a SIN, and you need to work on it.

Ask God for help and direction, don’t sin with your eyes and don’t think you are too tough or stable not to fall into temptation, because the devil works in many subtle ways and will deceive you into thinking that what you are doing is normal or part of a growing process in biology (like hormonal changes).**sigh**

All in all, what i want you to pick from this message is that Understand the Word of God, don’t just read and memorize scriptures, let them make sense to you, even if that means reading it several times. And what you can not do in public, do not do in private. God sees you!, so make sure you are clean. You do not need to be perfect but you need to be spiritually tough and fit to be able to flee when it is time to flee. Let your Yes be your Yes and your No be your No.

HOPE THIS MAKES SENSE TO SOMEONE, I WILL HAVE ANOTHER POST ON WHETHER CHRISTIANS CAN OR SHOULD LISTEN TO SECULAR MUSIC, SO SUBSCRIBE TO MY BLOG SO AS TO NOT MISS IT.

As always, please do comment so i can also learn from you, because that is the one of the purpose of Forever, Blossom & Shine. 

 

Peace,

Sika Sunshine ūüėČ

 

 

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BACK TO COLLEGE/ UNIVERSITY

 The new academic year is here and as a student myself, i decided to share some tips and advice i have personally learned and will start doing more of, or, less of as i am going back to school.

  • First and foremost as you are going back to school, you need to have a clean/positive mindset, meaning that you have to let go, and forget about everything that happened in the previous semester. Be it negative peers or influence(s), poor grades, etc. It is all in the past, so leave it in the past and focus on starting your academic year anew and strong. If possible have a detox; like basic yoga before school every morning, it really helpsūüėČ

 

  • Identify and set your goals; as a student you should always have it at the back of your mind that you are competing with yourself, to create the best version of yourself (that is; doctor, lawyer, engineer, entrepreneur, artist, etc). And as such, you need to be self-motivated and disciplined everyday. Set a goal and narrow it down. For example, if you want good grades, narrow it down to the letter grade you are aiming for in a particular class or course, which in turn affects the broad goal “your G.P.A,” and create a map/plan on how you will reach the goal; it should not necessarily be a routine but something that works for you, e.g. Forming study groups, going to the library on weekends, studying ahead of time and the likes.

 

  • Visit a mentor or counselor frequently, some counselors are really helpful and will coach you along your educational journey. They are able to map a plan with you on how to graduate successfully; they help you on which classes to take, and in which order and sometimes make great suggestions for you. I strongly advise you to meet with a counselor specialized in your major. For instance, do not go to a general Ed counselor if you are a science major, because the information you will receive differs. Do your research and use the school resources to your advantage and make connections with motivated and focused people like you who can also help and inspire you along the way.

 

  • Pre- read and post read before and after class, so that the new material stays fresh in your mind. This enables you to be confident when exams, quizzes or other testings are approaching. Avoid cramming and limit memorization. When you understand something, you hardly forget it and can explain it in many ways. So learn slowly and efficiently, have time to learn and try to understand what you are being taught because you will eventually need to apply the obtained knowledge and/or information later in life. A great example is Medical School; you will need to be very stable and confident in your undergraduate knowledge of the sciences.

 

  • Prioritize and try to do things on time. As a student, it is very easy and sometimes fun to procrastinate, but remember, the earlier you stay on top of your game, the better you do in class. Invest in a notepad or any kind of planner which you can use to meet deadlines, organize your social, school and/ or work-life. Having a planner is mentally and psychologically healthy, because your mind is clutter-free, allowing you to concentrate on one thing at a time, and getting things done. Cut the bad habit(s) little by little, else you will end the semester regretting and wishing you did things differently. ” Had i known is always at last” –Don’t let that be you.

 

  • Have time for yourself, there are many articles that describe and explain the benefits of¬† a fruitful and great workout. Research and studies show that a great workout helps with effective studies and long term retention. Be wise on how you spend your time, because time wasted can not be re-gained. But that should not stop you from having fun and entertaining yourself, don’t not loose yourself. Take care of your mind, spirit, soul and physical well -being, because stability in all areas of your life will help you to be successful in your academics and school in general. So do the workout peepz!

PS. Taking clean and colorful notes helps boost a positive mood for learning. So try it ūüėČ

 

Wishing you all a wonderful semester/ academic year. Hope you all excel in your studies. Remember to ask for help, mingle with the right people and stay on top of your game, and if you are struggling with anything, remember there are a lot of solutions and answers on the internet. So do your research on different learning strategies, note taking tips, etc. Research, Research, its all there!

Wishing you all A’s & God bless us all

Sika Sunshine ūüėä

 

 

Lessons Learned Part 1 and I am backūü§ó

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WOW!

It’s been a minute since i last posted, well that is because Life happens my friend. It’s truly a roller coaster; scary, overwhelming and a little bit of everything, yet you have to enjoy it and just BE. Don’t leave the seat without screaming, shouting, stamping your feet, listening to to the rhythm of your breath, and coming out with a teary eye and a big fat smile; wanting to do it all over again. Live well, live smart, live good, live happy. The journey is going to change you, challenge you, make you cry, smile, scream and all sorts of things and emotions. But do not let them hold you from living a happy and meaningful life. Remember you only live once, so make it count, make it worth your while!


I have learned so much within the first half of 2018, probably more than what i am about to share with you now, but these lessons have greatly affected my perspective on life and how to live smart, wise and intentional. So get comfy because i am about to write my heart off! There will also be a part 2 of this so watch out, and i will leave a link to my new YouTube. So please check it out and subscribe!ūüėä

 

Lesson 1.¬† Everybody has problems, the fact that you don’t know about it or they do not tell you about it, does not mean they have a perfect life or that they are okay.

A great example is social media, the fact that you always see beautiful pictures of¬† people on insta, fb, or any other social media platform does not mean they have a perfect life. They are human, so obviously they will have some “ups” and “downs” in their life. Social media today, especially on Instagram, people choose only to post their happy and glamorous moments, which is perfectly fine, there is nothing wrong with that. You do not expect them to post the negative and sensitive aspects of their family or life matters, that is up to them to decide if they want to share it with the public or not. So do not think you are unfortunate or unlucky, because we all suffer at a point in our life. Although some suffer more than others, we all do suffer at a point.

PS.¬†Some just show off on social media, be it, that they have what they are showing off or not. So don’t stress yourself. ;

Lesson 2.¬† Be kind to Everybody, but don’t be afraid of Anybody.

Feel free to express yourself in the most harmless way to anyone, and do not mistake¬† respect and kindness for fear and shyness. They are totally different. I used to confuse them, but i know better now . I used to be the type of person that would just let things be, or not say much because i wanted to be nice and respectful, but deep down it did not feel good, because i was not outspoken. It is not the best feeling at all. There is nothing wrong with being outspoken or voicing out, it only becomes a problem if it’s not communicated well. (Because humans are sensitive, quick to judge and take things too personal at times, so treat everyone as if they were too emotional). Be considerate of your words, but also speak the truth. Because it is really frustrating and annoying when someone underestimate your entire being/existence or takes you for granted just because you are an introvert.

Lesson 3.  Take care of yourself spiritually, mentally and physically.

This is very important for a healthy, productive and fulfilling life. Your life has to be a balance, a little bit of everything makes your life bubbly and amazing. Be mentally and physically attractive for YOURSELF! DON’T DO IT FOR ANYBODY. Look and feel good for yourself, be mentally attractive as well; ponder over complex and mind-blowing stuff. Do and try something new often.

Mental health is such a big problem in this world now, so it is important to engage in physical and fruitful activities that will keep your mind in a right place. If you need help, confide in someone, and if you do not have anyone, the best person to cast your burdens on is God. It sounds cheesy, but it is the truth. There¬†were times i did not know who to talk to about my problems, i became a blabber mouth..lol, telling my problems to just anyone, and the wrong people at times. It’s not that i did not have anyone to talk to, but i felt the people i trusted would not understand my problem the way i did, because i used to be a very emotional person.¬†So later, i started to talk to myself by writing in a journal; i would cry, laugh and encourage myself and those series and episodes of emotions and experiences inspired me to create¬†this blog. It felt good journaling and having the mindset that “no condition is permanent.” God was helping me to motivate myself and stay strong through my journals, and i began to understand His Word more than before. He is real guys, he really cares and loves us 100%. He wants the best for us and he wants us to talk to him everyday like we do with our best friends, family, etc. I pray that you find peace and strength in the Lord as you read this, no matter what you are going through. Don’t fall yet, don’t end it. It is not the way, it is not right. I also suggest limiting your time watching social media, it’s fun and all, but sometimes just silence the social-virtual life and live in the real life e.g Go for a walk, ride a bike, go to the gym, crochet, play math games,listen to inspirational podcasts, the list could go on and on. You know it!, you know what works for you, learn about yourself and what works for you ;). My goal is to be 100% spiritual, 100% mentally healthy, and attain my fitness goals 100% ; I will do so by working equally hard towards all of them, and I hope you do same.

Lesson 4.¬† You don’t always get what you want, the way you want it, and when you want it.

This lesson has taught me to be patient in life. I am still learning how to be patient and not to expect things so quickly and out of nowhere…lol. Patience is really hard to tame, it takes daily experience, challenges and certain circumstances to really develop and cultivate it. Be very positive, but keep in mind, that life as you see it, does not always give you what you want or what you want to hear. So always expect and prepare for any outcome, just do your part; do your best and do anything you do with confidence and to the best of your ability, and leave the rest for God and mother nature to take care of.

Be ready to compromise when necessary, accept the things you can not change, and change what you can. Have at least 3-5 backup plans in terms of an idea, project, goals,etc and life will not betray you.

Lesson 5.¬† Don’t compare yourself to others, You are enough!

Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with wanting to be the best version of yourself and being comfortable in life. The real problem starts the minute, you start wishing you were someone else, had their lifestyle and every other tempting and materialistic stuff. Instead let them–the people you are comparing yourself to, be an inspiration or point of reference for you to release your inner potential, to become what you have always envisioned for yourself, by working smart and hustling hard.

Have a thankful heart at all times, because somebody might wish they had what you appreciate less in your life.

Moreover, you do not know how people become what they are, whether it was through a right/ meaningful way or worth it. You can however choose how your success story will be made. So be grateful, because a grateful heart is like a magnet that attracts miracles and blessings from above. I stopped comparing myself to others, when i started channeling it into working on the things i want to achieve and by focusing. Because all the people we compare ourselves to, all started from somewhere to get to where they are now. So can i, and so can you. So change your mentality and get to work. Comparing yourself to others is a waste of precious time, You are ENOUGH! So stay and shine in your lane.

Heyūüėä, thanks for reading this far, leave a comment, or if you did not get what i said, point it out to me and i will elaborate or make necessary changes. I would also like to use this opportunity to thank all my subscribers, i have amazing surprises that i am working on for you, as well as great content. So don’t go anywhere.

 

Blossom and Shine Always,

Sika SunshineūüíĖ

Choices from your chances

Life can be easy, tough, difficult… you name it. But Life is not short, for those who know how to fully live their lives. We live in a “not so great world” today, where anything can happen anywhere and anyhow (very sad). But do not let that stop you from living a meaningful and satisfying life. Do what you love and love what you do every single day of your life. Plan for tomorrow,¬†but always live in the moment. Wake up determined and go to bed satisfied and happy. Do not live life regretting, wishing and wanting. THERE IS NO TIME FOR THAT! Get up and go for it.

There is no best decision maker in this world, but your life comes down to the decisions you make at the end of the day, and if  you change your decisions, you change your life. Your life is a result of your choices, habits and experience. It is always easy to say the things we want to achieve in the next 2-5 years but the real deal comes to the work done in order to achieve that goal. And it is not impossible, it just takes a while to reach that point in life. You start from nowhere to get to somewhere, and that is the most glorious and inspiring transition anyone can experience.

¬†For some people, its hard to live their ideal dream because they might be in a situation where they are unable to unlock their energy and be truly happy because they are physically, emotionally and psychologically trapped e.g. Financial problems, Family issues…just to name a few. And as tough and very very distressing as that sounds, i assure you that there is always a way, i know it, even if it takes a while for you to find it, you will surely find it if you trust your struggles and believe that no condition is permanent.

 Always concentrate on what you want to do with your life, more than what is going on in your life. Because challenges will never fade away, you need not let challenges overcome you. But rather overcome them and change your STORY.

You have only one shot in life, and i am pretty sure that if you had a second chance to re-live your first life. You would not take it for granted or compromise your happiness. Many would try to live as perfect as possible; they would take risks, trust their gut, say what they felt,etc.

To conclude, life is not short when:

  • you run, until you run out of breath,
  • talk until you bite your tongue,
  • fight until you find your peace
  • act wise when you are young, and, silly when you are old
  • Dance until you find your rhythm

 

GRATEFUL LIVING (Gratitude through it all)

During difficult times, you hear the phrase “Everything happens for a reason. Be Strong. Do not give in” or “God has a reason for everything my dear, be grateful in all things” ¬†And do not get me wrong, these are all true and meaningful words of encouragement people need to give one another in times of frustration, depression and what not. And for some people, it is very hard to let the words sink in because when you are in pain or in a destructive condition, those words turn into a language you can not understand. It is very tough to be grateful and positive when¬†you¬†are the one in the situation. You would want to, but your mind wont let you until you understand what it means to be ¬†grateful and how it can change your life and way of thinking.

Everybody goes through challenging and distressing situations¬†everyday¬†of their lives. And if you look on the bright side, it is no death sentence at all because it is not the reduction in problems or challenges that will make you happy. For instance, you may have everything that you could possibly dream of… but it does not end there, because you would want more of it or something else and that makes you discontented, therefore not grateful and unhappy. However, there are others who face misfortunes that we would not wish ¬†for ourselves yet they are grateful, therefore happy. Isn’t that beautiful?

In other words, you become truly happy when you are grateful for every moment in your life; be it good or bad. So it is not the happy people that are grateful but rather the reverse.

I believe that being grateful is about being overly thankful for everything freely given to you by God and how you have manged to make something out of the free thing. It does not matter how big  or small you have achieved but the fact that you are not slacking or being static. For example, we do not earn or trade something to be to be alive. It is free. Life is a valuable gift given to us from above, in it comes lots of moments, opportunities and second chances. And we should be grateful for, and in, every moment, and everyday of our lives because we have second chances and opportunities in life to do something worthwhile. Everything that comes with life and living is a gift in a gift. We can choose how we want our story to end with the opportunities given to us by God.

“When times are stable and the sea is calm and secure, no one is really tested. Similarly, God puts us to a test not to destroy us but to strengthen our faith in him and make our lives meaningful. Many Christians ¬†do not read the Word so they are misinformed, God never said that we will not face temptations, hardship, suffering and the likes. Of course we will, but his ¬†promise to us is that He will be with us through it all. Those who yearn for him really find him.

When you are grateful, you live with a sense of satisfaction and joy not discontentment and fear. Do not be grateful once in a while. Live gratefully everyday!

With love,

Sika Sunshine

 

MOTIVATION WITH A PURPOSE

 

Motivation without purpose is not enough.

Motivation is great but will not get you where you want to be, it will only cause you to day dream about the things you hope for. Once you have a solid purpose to back up the things you hope for, your motivation becomes meaningful and the actions you take towards achieving your dream(s) begin to pay off for your good.

Have reasons to be motivated. Ask yourself, “what is the reason i must be/do…?” not “I must be/do… because of…,”¬†while the first sentence in bold¬†is deeply immersed with motivation and purpose, the second sentence sounds hypocritical. The first sentence affirms¬† that there is an important reason as to why something is being done and therefore the¬†reason¬†will serve as an energy or boost to act¬†and¬†do). On the contrary, the second statement is not energy driven because it focuses on pleasing¬†“external forces”- and that is motivation without a solid purpose; not the best way to accomplish a dream.

The reason why we have the “I can achieve and do anything energy/spirit” after watching a motivational video or listening to a motivational message, but in an hour or week later completely forget about our goal driven energy is that, we focus on how to get motivated (we seek encouragement,validation,¬†solutions and answers) from these videos and messages whilst forgetting the most important thing; which is how we can change ourselves for the better by actually taking action and making tremendous use of the motivational speeches, videos, etc.

Motivational videos, quotes, songs and messages are not just there to motivate you. They serve as a call to action, to improve and change you. Do not be a victim of a temporary boost!. The next time you are watching a motivational video, pause and replay it repeatedly till the message sinks into your mind and soul, and if need be, jot down a few points that relate to your current situation and what you have learnt that can make you an effective and successful being and then start to act and move relentlessly.

Aspire to make a difference, not a living.

Before you get motivated:

  1. Have a plan, reason or purpose
  2. Incorporate discipline into achieving your plan,reason or purpose and take massive action towards them (Life goals, dreams and future)
  3. Attach deadlines to each and every goal until you check them off. (It can be weekly, monthly, yearly or even future goals)
  4. Condition your mind to be the best everyday and do not settle for less. You deserve great things.

Now bear in mind, it is normal for those deadlines to change/shift depending on situations/circumstances or what “life throws at us.” So you need to ¬†constantly make changes or adjust the deadlines where necessary and let your goals motivate you. With direction from God and this positive way of exercising¬†the brain, mind and soul, the sky will not be your limit because there are no limits for YOU. There are only plateaus which you must go beyond and overcome.

Motivation is like food for the brain, you can not get enough at a sitting. You need continual and regular refills of purpose mixed in motivation. Motivation with purpose will lighten up anyone’s life.

 

Peace and Light,

Sika Sunshine

 

 

THE WAIT IS WORTH IT! (Things to do before and during dating, courting or marriage)

Pray about it РThe sooner you start committing your marriage into his holy hands, the less mistakes you end up making. Of course, you will make mistakes (they are part of human growth and development) but the mistakes you encounter when you have God in the center, will not break your relationship but will make it more beautiful and serve as a learning tool. Courtship or marriage is a spiritual before physical bond between two individuals and as such needs spiritual preparation first, that is if you are considering a healthy and long-term relationship.

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Start committing any type of relationship you might have or want to have into God’s hands and He will guide and¬†link you to someone who is not just a soul mate, but a¬†BFF and success¬†coach for life!

Be Patient¬†– Many people rush into relationships without even getting to truly know each other. It does not matter how long you have known each other. People change, pretend and do all sorts of things in order to get what they want. So you need time¬†(a lot of it) whiles getting to know the one.” Unfortunately, this is the step many people ignore which causes them to make terrible mistakes. If you have a good understanding and perspective of¬†what a relationship¬†echoes and what it entails; waiting a couple of years before committing into one is no big deal, its worth it.

A successful relationship is dependent on the mindset of the two individual.

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“Patience is not only about the ability to wait but the ability to have a good attitude while waiting.”

Be Observant and judicious – This is another critical element which if, implemented in the course, or, in the very beginning of a relationship¬† saves you from making dimwitted mistakes and saves you time as well. Women tend to make this mistake¬†a lot because they are either¬†in a rush to be loved, or perhaps¬†“blinded by love.”

They therefore, do not pay attention or intentionally ignore the red flags (the habits, behavior, etc.) and realize their mistake halfway into the relationship or in some cases at the end of the relationship. This then leads to breakups, divorces, separation and other unpleasant outcomes.

In short, whether you are a man or woman, don’t ignore the “signs.” These¬†signs are¬†revealed to disclose to¬†you that “this man” is no good for you, or “this woman” is no good for you or maybe that you need to carefully assess and ask yourself and your significant other some questions.

Always build your self- worth and know¬†what you want before getting into a relationship. Don’t compromise!, else you will end up hurting yourself.

NB: If you can change your partner for the better, that is¬†awesome!! but if they do not want¬†your help or¬†you can’t change them. Move on!

Pay ATTENTION and don’t let any of those signs pass you by because the consequences are sad.

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~John Mark Green~

There are many vital things to implement and consider in a relationship but these are just a few main ones i think people should look out for. PLEASE leave a comment if you think i left something out and share your thoughts as well.

“Relationships end too soon because people stop putting the same effort to keep you as they did to win you.”

Take your time, good relationships don’t just happen.

 

Importance of Self-Love

In my journey of attaining self-love, i am discovering interesting and great importance of self-love and self-worth (they are somehow interconnected). It is my wish that anyone reading this can relate, to be able to understand and enjoy the benefits of self-love. Here are a few points/tips i would like to share

  • First of all, Self-love gives you courage to move out of your comfort zone. To take risks and to achieve “small wins” in life which turn into Great achievements. Just think about the things that limit you to do certain things e.g. shyness. When you are shy, you are unable to do more, or go extra. You are always in the “below average” or “average” zone which is unhealthy if you want to be successful. In a nutshell, self-love erases intimidation.

 

  • Secondly, When you know your self worth, nobody can bring you down. You only absorb what is useful and discard what is not meaningful to you.

 

  • Self-love makes you the master of “your game.” You are your own boss and no one can intimidate you, because you know who you are and what you want.

 

  • Last but not the least, Self-love is a confirmation to you, your soul, mind and body that you are a master piece of life. Because you are Unique! Learn to appreciate the “whole you,” the imperfections, perfections, weaknesses and strengths that makes you up, and learn how to perfect yourself from the good and ugly side of you.

Self love equals confidence and confidence equals power. Therefore, self-love is power and nobody should take your power away from you because it (self-love) belongs to you. Let this month be your month of self-love and self appreciation of the inner and outer YOU! 

You only live once, so while you have breath be Confident, Dream Big and Achieve your Goals!

Self-Love

Do you ever have that feeling of complete appreciation and awareness of self? The ability to cherish and trust your struggles and love every imperfection of that which is inside and outside of you.

Self-love is what I speak of; many have different interpretations for it. So, today I want share a much better understanding self-love and what it entails. Self-love is not about loving and appreciating your perfections (good looks, good behavior,etc). You really love yourself when you are able to appreciate both the good and ugly side of what makes you, YOU.

Self-love is more about who you are now,¬†who you want to become in the future and how you will help yourself transform into the best version of yourself with the help of your past experiences. (Self-love should never be influenced by an external force) You do not need anyone’s approval or validation except from Yourself .

I therefore encourage You to embrace your unique flaws and work on them because they play a part of what makes or breaks You and Me. We learn and grow from them, and they are just the beginning of OUR GREAT STORY.

So yeah!, work on yourself, your mind, whatever it is, try new stuffs once in a while and live your beautiful life to the fullest. So that on that day, you will not have regrets, only wonderful memories.

 

PS: please make your life meaningful; Life is never about material things, although it feels so good to be comfortable. Life should be fulfilling, not impressing. Do what makes you happy always, not sometimes. Life is short they say.